Friday, October 25, 2019

Re-affirming My Boundaries & Re-claiming Myself

Writer’s Note:
The contract with myself below is not a result of any specific occurrence or situation in my life. For two years my health and my mental health have chipped away at my ability to be an effective advocate for myself and others. I enter this contract with myself without holding any resentments.  My life is a journey and adventure not without purpose that ebbs and flows. My adventures would be wasted if I didn’t allow myself moments of reflection that remind me who I am, why I am here, how I can become the best version of myself, and how I can best help others.

My life as of late has been filled with the tension of a chess game, and it’s my fault. To paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt, no one can make me feel inferior without me first giving them permission to do so.

No one can make me feel like they have too much control of my time, of my opinions and of my options without me first giving them too much access to my life.  When the chaotic world of the "me revolution" reveals its need for dominance, I must occasionally slap myself in the face, look in the mirror and reclaim the person I want to be.

Sunday, October 6, 2019

How the Tragedies of September 11, 2001, Ironically Saved My Life

The New Season of
Pinky Penmark Blogs
is Here.

Overcoming fear, tragedy, and depression and getting your life back.

Other than being in Tallahassee Regional Medical Center for the 27th time suffering from pancreatitis with a Demerol PCA pump allowing me to stay in a pain-free haze while coming in and out of consciousness, September 11, 2001, began as a typical day.

What of which I had no idea was that this day would forever change my country, the world, and my life.

Sunday, July 28, 2019

Pinky Penmark to Make Return Appearance at Bingo4Charity Hosted by Victoria Michaels

Former Host Plans Cameo Appearance at Punky's Bar and Grill

Bingo4Charity benefiting Firmly Established, Inc. hosted by Victoria Michaels is Tuesday, August 6 at 7 PM

Victoria Michaels

Yes, it's me, Pinky Penmark, talking about my planned cameo in the 3rd person.....

because the event, hosted by Victoria Michaels, is all about a local non-profit, Firmly Established, Inc., that has grown very important to me.

As always, Bingo4Charity will be held at the local restaurant and pub, Punky's Bar and Grill, that has become a local favorite and hero for leading the way in its continued support of numerous local non-profits, events, causes and the LGBTQ+ community at large.

I urge you all to clear your calendars on Tuesday, August 6 from 7 PM to 9PM and plan to attend this event along with me that will support a much deserving non-profit while having some good clean (and sometimes dirty) fun playing Bingo! alongside the fabulous Victoria Michaels who does Central like no other gal we know.

  I (Pinky) will be donning a dress (and maybe a nightgown too) for the first time in 18 months to celebrate this event, this cause and your years of support. Blink and you could miss this event and your chance to see this old, bald man in a dress for another 18 months.

Firmly Established, Inc and Holistic Coaching, from which Firmly Established was born, share a mission and a vision that benefits the entire Tampabay LGBTQ+ community, our allies, our friends and our businesses.

Holistic Coaching is bravely attempting to help the chronically homeless and/or addicted regain their dignity and their lives before helping them return to independent living.

And, Firmly Established, Inc, a 501(c)(3) organization, is helping local at-risk youth realize their potential through leadership, guidance, referrals, workshops, and seminars.

Working hand in hand, Firmly Established, Inc. and Holistic Coaching are improving the lives of many of our local citizens.

Your attendance and support at this event are crucial to the success and mission of Firmly Established, I would very much appreciate your attendance at this event when Pinky comes out of the closet (again).

And, don't forget to call 727.201.4712 to reserve your table ASAP or you might be playing Bingo4Charity while standing (and that wouldn't be cute).

Pinky hopes to see you there! 

Thank you for your continued support of Pinky, myself and our ever-evolving adventures.

Please RSVP to the event here: Bingo4Charity benefiting Firmly Established, Inc.

For more information on Firmly Established and Holistic Coaching visit and

Pinky Penmark